Imagine you are a young person in high school or just starting college. You find yourself attracted to people of the same gender. You can’t deny that some part of you always has been. You are still figuring out who you are and what you want to do with your young life. You are on the brink of adulthood, exploring your potential, and you think you might be gay. Imagine the confusion. Now imagine that your faith demands that you live a lie. Imagine having to pretend to love someone so that you can live a “normal” life. Imagine bringing children into that loveless environment and lying to them. Imagine deceiving your friends, family, coworkers, and fellow church members. Imagine the pain. This is still the expectation of many young people today because according to some, homosexuality is a mortal sin.
You have been taught your entire life that God loves you. Jesus loves you. Your family loves you. As long as you don’t fall in love with someone of the same sex. If you do, you must repress those feelings and live a closeted life. Thou shalt not lie… except in this situation.
Perhaps you are not truly gay. Perhaps you are being tricked by the devil, tempted to try what society tells you is acceptable and harmless. Perhaps with enough therapy and prayer you can ‘fix’ yourself. But wait, if I’m not supposed to be gay because it’s “unnatural” why are there homosexual animals in nature? Why would God make gay animals? God doesn’t make mistakes. Are scientists lying to further the “gay agenda”? Did God make gay animals to control the population of those particular species? Maybe I shouldn’t compare humans to animals because God made Adam to rule over the animals so humans must be superior to animals right?
I spent more than a year on my knees in college. I grew up in church and I went to a private religious university. I knew that I was gay and I was TERRIFIED. I was afraid that I would lose my family, my faith, and maybe my very soul. I don’t know which one hurt the most. I hadn’t had gay sexual experiences that ‘turned me gay’. I hadn’t had straight sexual experiences that were unpleasant. I had no gay family members or friends at the time. I had no references at all. So how could God let this happen? Where was my weakness that let the devil in? Who or what led my astray?
I was desperate for a sign from God that I was okay and that I wasn’t lost, that it was okay for me to keep living, and maybe just maybe live a life outside of misery and pain. The world has changed a lot in the last twenty years, but there is still so much healing to do. My role in that healing is to discover and share the truth that God loves LGBT people and that they are not to be persecuted.
There are over 30,000 verses in the Holy Bible. Twenty of them are used to defend the misconception that homosexuality is an abomination. This must stop. Young people’s lives’ depend on it. Using the ‘clobber passages’ in such a way is human prejudice, not God’s edict. God’s Word cannot exist outside of love. Some who speak against the LGBT community are ignorant; some are bigots. If they are misinformed, we must inform them and relieve them of their ignorance by explaining the Scriptures; what they mean, why they say what they do, and how to apply them to our lives today. If those people in question are malicious, then we must spread the truth to those they may persuade, love them as instructed, and most importantly forgive them.
There will be those that discredit my writing because it is biased. There will be those that write rebuttals that re-state the misinformation they believe to be true. If false information gets repeated enough, people believe it. Obviously that statement could be used to discredit my work as well. Some will be angry. Some will be sad. Some may even lash out and threaten because I am about to shed light on some very dark corners of the Scripture. All I ask is that you read my posts carefully and analyze the information with an open heart and a rational mind. The truth lies not in us, but in the Divine.
Religion shouldn’t be divisive. There need not be an ‘us’ versus ‘them’. It’s okay to admit that some people have gotten the wrong message from the Scriptures. It’s okay because we can make it right. God’s message is love. Any other message is a misinterpretation. This is why I’m writing this blog. “Whoever claims to love God yet hates a brother or sister is a liar. For whoever does not love their brother and sister, whom they have seen, cannot love God, whom they have not seen.” 1 John 4:20